I am going to make an assumption here and guess that you, yes you, the person reading this post right now, YOU have experienced hard things in your life.
Hard things can look different for each of us. Hard things could be the loss of a loved one. It could be the loss of a job. Hard things could be going through a separation or divorce. It could be getting sick, injured, or failing at something you longed to do. Hard things could be a season in your life where you had to make a hard decision like moving away from friends and loved ones.
Right now, in this season, it feels really hard. Right now, in this season, you probably feel scared, stressed and anxious. Right now in this season, you might feel exhausted or even defeated. You're questioning how you are going to keep moving forward because it feels too big. It feels too hard. Does this resonate with you? Are these feelings you are experiencing right now?
I’ll be honest, this is really hard. I constantly feel like I am failing at one, or all of the roles I am attempting to play.
I get up every single morning and attempt to check off every box of my daily routine I’ve created to stay ”sane.” I get up every morning and play the role of mama, getting my kids up and ready for their day. I get up every morning and log into work and play the role of leader, teammate and employee. I log out of work every single day and try to find a couple of minutes for self-care in order to clear my brain, gain some sanity and be able to show back up in my role as mama, chef and wife. Let’s be clear though, in reality I was still playing those roles while working from my home “office.”.
I kiss all the boo boos. I answer all the emails. I get all the snacks. I check in with my high school senior who is feeling heartbroken that THIS, THIS is her senior year. I tuck those babies to bed. I shift gears and play the role of coach to a community of dedicated and strong women. I attempt to connect with my husband on how our days went, and discuss any possible issue areas so we can regroup and try again tomorrow. I go to bed exhausted and wake up to do it all over again. Oftentimes feeling like I am in the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. Anyone else?
You guys, I am tired. No, I’m exhausted. This is hard. This is so flipping hard.
But you want to know what I realized today? I realized that I’ve done this before. Well, maybe not exactly this as I don’t think anyone has ever experienced something like this before. I have however experienced some pretty hard things in my past. Like hard, dark, crap. So yes, I’ve been here before. You know, that place where you felt like you were at a loss of control. That place where you felt like you didn’t know how you’re going to keep going.
Ya, I’ve been here before and I bet you have too.
You know what you probably forgot though? The fact that you made it through that hard time. You SURVIVED through that difficult period of your life. You did that. Remember?
I don’t want you to lose sight of the fact that you’ve had your mountain (or in my case, many mountains). I don’t want you to forget that feeling you experienced when you stood at the bottom of that mountain, looking up to the top thinking to yourself “How in the WORLD am I going to get up there?.”
I don’t want you to lose sight of the fact that you DID. How? You don’t remember? Let me remind you.
You took the first step. You put one foot in front of the other and you took one step at a time. It was probably a slow pace at first and you probably did it this way for a while. Maybe until you felt like you had solid ground under you. Then you found times where you had a little increase of momentum, so you sped up. Don’t forget, there were also times when you tripped, but you didn’t fall over completely. Instead you took a couple of steps back and caught yourself. You found your footing and you went right back to it. One foot in front of the other. One single step at a time.
You did that.
You have to remember that although this season of your life might feel IMPOSSIBLE, you WILL survive through this. You WILL rise above. You have done hard things before, it just looks different this time. The lessons you have learned throughout your life will help you to navigate through this hard time too. I promise.
I personally have fallen many times over the years and I have picked myself up every single time. I have made the choice to not be the victim to the things that happen in my life, but to be the warrior that pushes through, even when it was hard. Even when I didn’t want to. I choose that. I made that decision. It took a lot of hard work, but I did that. You are in control of what this means for you, right here, right now. It will not get better by you giving up. I promise you that.
Now, the important question is, who will you be at the end of all of this? Life is going to look different on the other side of this. We have no control over that part. What you do have control over though is who YOU are going to be on the other side. You get to decide. I have this thought. Call me crazy, but here we go.
The version of me prior to COVID-19, or for that matter, the version of me prior to any hard thing I have ever experienced is a previous version of myself that I will never be again. Not that I didn’t like her, it’s just the reality of life and revolution of constant growth. The thing is, I am actually pretty excited to meet the person I am going to be on the other side of this. I look forward to seeing the person I will be on the other side of all the hard times that are coming my way because there WILL be more of them.
You guys, there is a meaning behind why these things are happening for us right now. The thing is you have to force yourself to look for the lessons and to remember, life is happening FOR you, not TO you. We are by no means going to do this perfectly, but we are going to do this. Together as a community.
I want you to know, I see your fear, and it is big. It is validated. It is okay to feel that. But I also see your courage, and your strength and let me tell you, THAT is even bigger. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. You can do hard things. You’ve done it before. I believe in you.
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