It’s true, I fell in love while on vacation. Yes, you’re right, I am a married woman. Let me explain.
My family and I recently visited a small island off of Maine that I had been to when I was a little girl. I remember my dad taking me to the beaches there and thinking it was a magical place. Fast forward 30+ years I decided I needed to head back and share this magical spot with my little family (totally off a memory of what I thought it would be like).
I’ll be honest, when we got off the ferry I didn’t remember a thing. I had no idea what was on the island or where this magical beach was even located. I was following my heart as it was telling me we needed to be there. For some crazy reason, my family trusted me and didn’t even question it.
I am currently sitting here in our rental home 4 days into our vacation and I can honestly say I am in love. I am in love with the way that this island makes me feel. I am in love with the calm that it brings my family. I am in love with the people in this community.
I am so in love that I now have a goal, not a dream, that we WILL own a home on this island. There is a big difference between goals and dreams. Dreams are something you think about, goals are something you attain. We are going to attain this. It might take us a minute, but we will.
I feel so strongly about this that I asked our oldest to watch the two littles as I wanted to take my husband down to the beach because I had an idea. Our backpack was filled with a bottle of wine, two glasses, a notebook and pencil. Together, we sat on a piece of driftwood on a private beach and mapped out our plan. What will our home on this island look like? How will it make us feel? What words will describe our summers on the island? We closed our eyes and asked each other these questions and started envisioning what it looked like. It was crazy, talking it out to one another really allowed us to SEE it as if it was right in front of us! I jotted everything down in my notebook as I didn’t want to miss a detail.
Then the reality kicked in. HOW were we going to make this happen? We decided if this is something we were serious about we would need to be able to map out what we need to do in order to get there. We will need to pay off our current mortgage. Not only that, but how long will it take us to do this? We decided we would make it happen one year from that day. Next, school loans, ugh. We can shift our focus to them after the mortgage is paid off and have them paid off in two years following the year of paying off the mortgage. Next, money saved for a down payment and any construction needed of the home. We will need one more year to save up to go into it and be able to create the home we envisioned today on this beach. So in four years this goal will be a reality.
Our plan is now created. We now have a year in mind that we will be back on this island as a homeowner. It might not be as quickly as I’d like, but we want it to be the right way. Don’t get me wrong, we will be back every year as renters until the purchase of our home happens. Who am I kidding, I’ve already started looking at homes to rent for the summer of 2020 and this summer has just begun.
Though the goal is identified and the plan is created, the next part is the toughest part which is the actual work. Paying off these debts and hitting these milestones is only going to happen if we tighten up our budgets and make decisions over these next couple of years to put us in the place we need to be in.
When we returned home I put a post it note on our wall in our bedroom with the name of the island on it. It is a daily reminder of the goal we are aiming to meet as a family. We are determined to make it happen because we want it that bad. In speaking with family and friends since our return home I have shared with everyone that we are buying a home on the island. I believe that the positive words and intentions I put out there will help make it a reality.
Have you ever wanted something so badly that you could see it and feel it? Maybe it was that you wanted to move to a new community, or start a new job. Maybe it’s that you want to be debt free or maybe take a trip somewhere you’ve never been. I would love it if you shared this goal with me. Describe it! Tell me what it entails. Maybe you think it is so big and crazy that you’ve never actually said it out loud to someone. That’s the goal I want to hear! Think about it for a minute. Maybe jot down on a piece of paper what it would take to make it a reality. Put some timelines around those steps. Make them realistic. Maybe by doing this you could see that it might just be realistic. Now, do me a favor and put it on a post it note or just a piece of paper and tape it to your wall where you will see it every single day. Let it be the reminder you and allow for it to feed that the fire in your belly, the one maybe you’ve been ignoring.
I know, you might think it is too big, it’s too crazy, people will judge you. WHO CARES! It’s not their goal, it’s yours. If you want it, go for it.
Take a picture of your daily reminder and share it with me. I want to see it proudly hanging on your wall! If your goals don’t scare you, they are too small. Goals should scare the crap out of you. They should make you need to become a different person in order to hit them.
“Without dreams and goals there is no living, only merely existing and that is not why we are here.”- Mark Twain.
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