Last summer I was fortunate to have the entire summer off because of my maternity leave with my third daughter. If I remember correctly, my oldest was wrapping up her last final on the day I delivered. I knew that having the opportunity to stay home with my three girls for an entire summer would never happen again. I ate it up as much as I could. I made a “summer bucket list” prior to the baby being born and aimed to do everything on that list. If you laughed that’s okay, you are correct, that list changed very quickly when I was reminded of what it was like to try to maneuver around with a newborn, forget about adding a toddler to that equation as well.
I am not going to lie, I do long for what I had last year. I watch my friends and sit in absolute envy. I sit at work, plugging away and see all of their adventures on social media. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE MY JOB. I also love being a mom AND having a career, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have a little envy of those able to be home with their children.
And then, I had my “ah ha” moment (thank God for these). How dare I sit here in envy, or jealousy or any other feeling towards a fellow mama who is home with their child(ren). How dare I sit here and compare my life to anyone else's or have any other feeling expect pure happiness for these mamas. The reality is, my reality is, I am a full time working mama and I am so proud of this. So instead of sitting here in a game of unhealthy comparison, I will choose to be intentional with our summer and make it be the best it can be in our reality.
I made a bucket list again for this summer. It wasn’t as long and it included things each of us wanted to do maybe alone (mine was to get out on my paddle board as much as I possibly could) or together as a family (week away, amusement parks, playground tour). It was great to jot these ideas down in the spring and then plan them out on our calendars to ensure we found the time to do as many of them as we could do. We took off some days from work where needed, or squeezed them into as many weekends as possible between Memorial Day and Labor Day. We might not get to everything, but we will still have a memorable summer as a family.
The beautiful weather is a short window here in New England, so you have to make sure to enjoy it while you have it! For this summer and every summer going forward, I am making a pledge to myself to be intentional with my time. I do not want to waste a summer wishing for something that is not serving me, but instead making sure to enjoy the time I do have, making memories with my family and being fully present in these moments.
Today is your day. It doesn’t have to be big extravagant plans, it just has to be intentional. Enjoy every minute.
Click here to read about my social media break that allowed me to acknowledge this unhealthy comparison pattern I kept finding myself in.
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