One of my biggest insecurities in this world is around money. Honestly it is. The reason? I messed up pretty big when it came to finances many years ago. It’s not something I am proud of, or even something I like to talk about, however, I believe it happened for a reason. I am now…
Author: Pamela Hawkes
Good Enough is the New Perfect
I will open this post by admitting that I am a recovering perfectionist. I am, it’s true, and it was really bad. I wanted my life and everything in it to be perfect. Absolutely perfect. No waves. No imperfections. Let me tell you about the pressure, stress and anxiety that came with having this narrative…
Raise Each Other UP
I am starting to feel like we live in a world where we are more apt to tear one another down in order to make ourselves feel better, or to get further up whatever ladder we are attempting to climb, than we are to raise each other up.This is not a comforting realization, it is…
My Reflection
Have you ever sat down and just had some reflection on the year. This has been something I have wanted to do, but I could not find the time or head space to do so. Then the most interesting thing happened. We lost power at our house AND my children are sleeping. The house is…
Finding Me Time Without the Guilt
Something that has been coming up a lot in conversation is around self care. It is amazing to me how many women have so much guilt wrapped around the idea. The amount of women that tell me they don’t have the time, or the resources, to have some time dedicated for themselves honestly breaks my…
I Love Counseling
I have a Counselor. Actually, I’ve had many throughout the years and I’ve loved them all. Each helped me in different stages of my life. I guess I should note, I didn’t love them all. If we didn’t make an immediate connection, I moved along. So those that I stayed with, I loved them. I…
Her.
Comparison to others is a real thing. I will raise my hand right now and tell you that I STRUGGLE with this. I always have and I feel as though lately it has gotten worse. I am always looking to other women and comparing myself to her. I’d like to blame it on social media,…
Boundaries Around the Holidays
The holiday season can be a magical time, but can also be an extremely stressful time. It can be triggering for some, or full of too many demands and plans making us so busy that we don’t actually have the opportunity to FEEL this time of year, but most just survive through it. Tell me,…
What I Have Learned From My Three Year Old
I’ll be the first to admit, I have learned a lot from my children over the years. However, lately I have felt that I have learned a lot thanks to my middle child, so she has become my teacher of life lessons. The first thing I would say to someone who has a three year…
I Used to be Someones’ Assistant
My current role is that of vice president of fundraising for a local non profit. That did not happen overnight. I actually used to be someone’s assistant. Before that? I worked for a couple of different department stores that had uniforms that consisted of some really attractive smocks! I mean, how in the world are…